10 Tips for dealing with Heartbreak

I got this from someone else and it's not going to describe every situation but it's sure got enough practical wisdom to glean from and will help someone in this hard place get through it and get over it.

10 Tips for dealing with Heartbreak

1) It is grief, don’t delay dealing with it (getting drunk, partying, pretending you don’t care, and finding someone else would not help). Confront it head on.

2) It hurts, so cry.

3) Pray, this gives you the strength to cope. Only God can heal you. People will listen for you for a season or until the next gossip comes along. They WILL get fed up of hearing you rant and cry. God  always has time for you.

4) Resist the “overwhelming” urge to call him/her to tell them something “important”. They see it as manipulation or justification to why they left you.

5) Find healthy entertainment with friends (same sex) or family. Church, lunch, dinner, sports, gym, movies are good ways to keep your mind occupied. Your mind will be bombarded pain, anger, malice, jealousy, suicide, if you are not careful, you’ll do, say or perform something you will regret.

6) Your confidante must not be of the opposite sex unless that person is a close blood relative. “Involved” men should not counsel single (hurting) women and vice versa. It is the subtlest seduction.

7) Be very careful where you get advice. Don’t entertain anyone who speaks of revenge, destruction or embarrassment.

8) If there are children involved, don’t use them as pawns. When a split occurs no one wins, but the children always lose. Love them more than you dislike/hate your ex. A child should never have to choose between parents. Never speak ill of your ex for the children to hear. Leave them out of “big people” business.

9) Take time to heal. Don’t go into another relationship until you determine what was your part in the termination and deal with it and learn from it (yes you had a part to play, be honest with yourself!). Baggage is not appealing. If you don’t remove it, history will repeat itself. Also it is not fair to the new person.

10) Forgive and forget. Forgive and forget. FORGIVE & FORGET!!! Most bad things happen for a good reason. You’ll look back and thank God. The person who hurt you was a conductor for God’s blessings to move you to a better place. If you don’t forgive and forget, you will be hindering your blessing. You will not grow and become a better person. Your pain will be without purpose. For nought.............. I’m reminded of the life of Joseph (Genesis 37-50). Because of jealousy, he was sold in slavery, thrown in prison and finally ascended to the second highest rank in the land. When his father died, his brothers thought that he will extract revenge; however, this was his response.... “Don’t be afraid of me. Am I God, that I can punish you? You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.(Gen 50:19-20)

Hope this helps.